How often do things go as planned? There’s always some sort of surprise, isn’t there? It seems like nothing is set in stone. No matter how well you plan for something or cover your bases, life is always going to throw curveballs at you to shake you up. We gotta be proactive in adapting to these changes.
In this moment, right NOW, is there anything wrong? Is there anything you need right at this VERY second?
Your answer 99.99% of the time is invariably going to be “NO” even if something is stressing you like crazy.
It turns out that things are actually totally fine, all the time, as long as you focus on the present moment, because the present moment is all there is. The future is always coming, the past is history, and the present is a gift, that’s why it’s called a present.
If you come back to “center” and realize that the only moment that exists is this moment right NOW, that will help calm you down. We feel anxiety and stress when we obsess with things in the future that are not here yet. We feel sadness when we dwell on things that are in the past.
But what do I do if a problem comes up?!?!?!
So let’s say you have an emergency, like a problem like, this happened to me a couple months ago. I hit my shin really hard and it was bleeding and it hurt like a mother fucker and I sat down and realized I could see my bone. At that moment I realized, this won’t heal on its own properly and I need to go to the hospital and get stitches.
Did I freak out at that point? No. Why would I freak out? How could that help me? I can’t turn back time. I just have to deal with what’s in front of me and plan for what you need to do next.
Anytime a problem comes up, I immediately list the options that are available to me in my head, so that I know what I need to do, to deal with the problem.
Sounds too simple? Yes, it’s RIDICULOUSLY SIMPLE.
Often times our stress accumulates from NOT PROCESSING the problem. What I am telling you to do is to IMMEDIATELY process what options you have and come up with a plan so that you force yourself to face your problem and deal with it.
Thinking ahead about your options will take your mind off the problem and onto a solution. There’s no reason to dwell on something.
Now, with all that said, of course I get stressed out too, especially when I have too many school exams (deadlines) to deal with and it occurred because I procrastinated and allowed too many things to get piled on. Subconscious sabotage is a very REAL issue that keeps us within our comfort zone. Our subconscious wants to keep us within the comfort zone, because that is what is SAFE (programmed into our survival). But alas, life starts at the END of our comfort zone, because that’s when we really feel alive.
Just get a handle on things, plan your day. You have 8 hours to sleep, 8 hours to work, 8 hours to do whatever it is you need to do, that’s it, that’s 24 hours.