We do Facebook for Us

I was hang­ing out with a cou­ple friends the other day and I half-jokingly said I think every­time some­one gets a noti­fi­ca­tion on Face­book, a lit­tle bit of dopamine is released.  Then my friend Adam Davis, said that we like Face­book because we make it about us.

Then he started to break it down…

Isn’t it funny how a noti­fi­ca­tion that you assume is a com­ment for your most recent, hilar­i­ous sta­tus update or one more like on your new pro­file pic­ture actu­ally turns out to be an event invite? And now now, all of a sud­den, in your abrupt lone­li­ness, you have no desire to go to it?

There you were: about to drop down the list of your most recent noti­fi­ca­tions. You were out for the week­end and you haven’t once checked your smart­phone face­book app so you have quite a few. Already you’re imag­in­ing your vir­tual pop­u­lar­ity, all the likes your witty com­ments must have got­ten, all the LOL’s, all the respect you always knew you deserved is finally here and only one click away. So you click the lit­tle globe and behold: They’re all event invites from peo­ple you rarely even talk to and you real­ize that you are lit­tle more than a face on a ‘going’ list. As a result, I’ve trained myself not to check event invites, period. I’m tired of being let down.

I thought that was inter­est­ing.  And true!  We don’t seem to be as excited about an event because the noti­fi­ca­tion isn’t about us, it’s about what theywant to do.  If you receive a noti­fi­ca­tion for a thread you com­mented on, but don’t care to read replies to it, you feel the same apa­thy.  These noti­fi­ca­tions aren’t as grat­i­fy­ing prob­a­bly because they don’t involve you as much.

Thoughts?