Dealing with Post Playa Depression (Burning Man I Love You)

Sun­rise at the tem­ple of Burn­ing Man 2009

Post playa depres­sion is a very real thing, espe­cially after your first burn.  A lot of peo­ple expe­ri­ence it, I know I did!  It’s a nat­ural prob­lem after return­ing from the best week of your entire LIFE!!!  Tran­si­tion­ing back into the real-world and pro­cess­ing all the amaz­ing things you expe­ri­enced can be an over­whelm­ing process.  There are SO many incred­i­ble things we expe­ri­enced in our lit­tle city for that full week that it is impos­si­ble that you are not wired dif­fer­ently now!

You may be ques­tion­ing your job, your cowork­ers, maybe your friends, the fact that you have to drive your car now instead of your bicy­cle and are stuck in traf­fic.  The lack of wide open, end­less, lib­er­at­ing spaces… Even your appetite might have changed, you may not be crav­ing sugar as much, or the tele­vi­sion, or Face­book, etc!

Direct that new­found energy to make life more awesome

Don’t worry my friend! You can use this energy to make pow­er­ful changes that will make your default world more like Black Rock City.  This is not the time to just go back to the way things were but to inte­grate the lessons you learned and make pro­gres­sive changes in your life!

This is why, for exam­ple, I ride my bicy­cle as much as I can, all the time.  It con­nects my spirit to the care­free and time­less way of life at burn­ing man com­bined with healthy exer­cise. So one thing you can do is… ride your bicy­cle a lot more often! Inte­grate it with errands or work or ride around the park or any­thing you like.

Say hello / good morn­ing / good evening to strangers even if they don’t want to look at you or respond like most peo­ple in the city.  Even if they stare depress­ingly at the side­walk as they pass you… it’s okay, say hello to them any­way, it will make you feel good inside and maybe remind them to look up once in a while.

Smile and wave at the dri­ver stuck at the red light next to you! Who cares if they get con­fused and won­der why you would do such a crazy thing. Smil­ing is awe­some and that will lift their spir­its and raise the vibra­tion of the sit­u­a­tion.  Who knows, they might just smile and wave back. :le gasp:

Take that “risk” of inter­act­ing with peo­ple like you did at the burn.  Maybe it’s time you finally start that con­ver­sa­tion with your neigh­bor of 10 years.

If you real­ize you hate being an office drone then maybe it’s time to look for a new job! What is it your really want to do?  Brain-storm.  Look for open­ings in the dif­fer­ent depart­ments that you could trans­fer to within your cur­rent com­pany.  Maybe there are some new oppor­tu­ni­ties there you may enjoy more and learn new things.

Hate hear­ing the TV? Then leave it off! Or bet­ter yet, save some money and can­cel your cable ser­vice. :-p

Do you real­ize now you have too many use­less mate­r­ial pos­ses­sions and can’t stand the clut­ter?  Start that cleans­ing process by sell­ing your stuff on craigslist and get some money for it while free­ing up your space!

Hav­ing prob­lems with your non-burner friends?

You might have friends who might seem a bit more dis­tant now that you are being more REAL with them and maybe they don’t like that change or maybe you are sub­con­sciously push­ing them away.  That’s okay… friends always nat­u­rally come and go.  Don’t try to stick to the pre­vi­ous rules you had cre­ated in your friend­ships.  Be sure to love the vulnerable-open-honest-you! The peo­ple who will love you are out there won­der­ing where the heaven you’ve been. It may or may not work with all friend­ships and that’s totally fine.

A lot of peo­ple find com­fort in read­ing sto­ries, writ­ing out their own sto­ries on the burn­ing man forum at: http://eplaya.burningman.com  Go ahead and type your sto­ries out some­where for the world to see.  They will undoubt­edly be spe­cial, at least to you, and help you retain the shadow mem­o­ries of your dream-like-week.

Look at the pic­tures or videos your friends posted such as I did here last year.  Plan a get together with your camp mates to watch the pic­tures or videos together.

Check if your city has a decom­pres­sion event because while it isn’t sup­posed to mimic BM, it sure does have a nov­elty fac­tor to it and it’s nice to be there.

Any­way… keep your dreams alive!  We got an immea­sur­able amount of inspi­ra­tion so please don’t get bogged down.  You were just a part of an amaz­ing city that every­body took part in cre­at­ing all together.  A city built on free­dom to be your­self.  Keep those dreams alive and be strong to direct this new level of energy toward mak­ing your life as awe­some as you can make it.

Also, eat well and reestab­lish a con­sis­tent sleep­ing cycle! :-D

Hope that helps!